For as long as I can remember, I dreamt about one day being a mom. I would take care of my baby dolls as if they were real, and if given the chance I had someone’s child on my hip.
Before I became a mother, I envisioned that motherhood was going to be all butterflies and rainbows. I thought my motherly instincts, that everyone talked about, would kick in and I would know how to handle every situation I was presented with. The next thing I know I’m sleep deprived, covered in spit-up, and have changed more diapers than I can count. Talk about a dose of reality. HA!
Motherhood is no easy task that’s for sure. When I’m deep in the trenches of chores, feeling like I’m always behind on something, or wanting to lock myself in a closet just to get some peace and quiet I have to remind myself that these days are TEMPORARY. It is in these moments when I’m feeling overwhelmed and wanting to pull my hair out, that I take a step back and realize that motherhood is the best teacher I’ve ever had. Motherhood has taught me so much about myself through all the struggles and triumphs. I’d like to share a few lessons my girls have taught me over the last 6 years.
- Unconditional love
I was raised in a family where there was not a shortage of unconditional love expressed daily. But I really didn’t grasp what unconditional love was until my first born was placed in my arms for the first time. There is nothing my girls have done, or could do that would change my love for them. The reciprocal love we have for each other warms my heart. I have gone from Mary Poppins to Cruella De Vil within a matter of minutes and my little ones still hug and kiss me saying they love me, and I’m the best. It’s the most satisfying feeling in the world. Being a mother gives me a glimpse of what my heavenly Father feels towards me. Truly amazing!
- Be courageous
Life has a funny way of causing you to learn to be fearful such as; fear of failing, fear of the unknown, fear of rejection etc. My eldest came at a time in my life where I needed to conquer some of my fears, and begin living life to the fullest. I’ve witnessed my girls face their fears on several occasions; when the slide was too high, the water was too deep, or when they were the new girls on the block they always tackled things head on. My girls have challenged me to step out of my comfort zone many times, and I can’t thank them enough for it.
- Be in the moment
I can multitask with the best of them. I like to make my to-do list, and get things checked off. I really have to be careful not to allow my mind to be elsewhere when I am spending time with my children. I have learned not to just be physically present, but to be completely present. Those dirty dishes and laundry will still be there, but that moment of laughter, and fun with my girls will pass quickly.
When my toddler has refused to follow my correction for the one hundredth time, or has painted a mural with toothpaste on my bathroom wall my patience wears thin. Anyone who knows me, knows I’m not the most patient person. I have learned that in those moments I have to take a deep breath, and that this is my opportunity to grow in this area. I am learning to appreciate the good and hard moments. Motherhood is an excellent refining process.
In those times when I feel like a complete failure, I have the sweetest little treasures to remind me that we’re in this thing together. They have sanded me, and are making me the best version of myself. I am truly blessed to be called their “mom.”
A quote to remember, “The days are long, but the years are short.”
Family Photo Credit: Amber Craig of Something For The Walls